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Betrayal Trauma (4 of 7)

In Abortion, Special Edition on September 26, 2011 at 12:00 am

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Betrayal Trauma

“I propose that the core issue is betrayal — a betrayal of trust that produces conflict between external reality and a necessary system of social dependence.” — Jennifer J. Freyd


Betrayed Black RoseAccording to Dr. Jennifer J. Freyd, author of the terms “Betrayal Trauma” and “Betrayal Trauma Theory,” Betrayal Trauma Theory predicts that dissociating information from awareness is mediated by the threat that the information poses to the individual’s system of attachment. 1 By definition, dissociation means “to sever the association of (oneself) or separate.” When we dissociate information from our awareness, we sever association or separate ourselves from such knowledge. Corroborating research has found significant correlations between symptoms of dissociation with those experiencing intra-familial trauma (i.e., trauma occurring within a family) versus those experiencing extra-familial trauma (i.e., trauma lying outside the family or its control). 2

What is it about Betrayal Trauma within the family that lends itself so easily to dissociating information from our awareness?

This is part four (4) of a seven (7) part series examining why Black Leadership rejects the Pro-Life movement, is helping to perpetrate the genocide of their own people and what can be done to reverse this horrific reality.

Betrayal Trauma: Familly Inflicted

“Now is the time to lift our national policy from the quicksand of racial injustice to the solid rock of human dignity.” — Martin Luther King, Jr., Letter from Birmingham Jail

Church FamilyBlack Church Face | Gilbert&George.3

The Number Three Reason Black leadership rejects the Pro-Life movement is that he or she is: Compromised. Abortion is the #1 issue in America. Abortion, much like slavery, is an issue, that threatens to shut down our entire government. In the Black Church, abortion is no less of a threat to church government. When you learn that 30% of all abortions in the country are Black abortions 4 and understand that Black Americans constitute only 12% of the population, you’re beginning to get the picture. But you can’t stop there. When you realize that about half of us are women, you’re now down to 6% of the population responsible for 30% of all abortions in the country. But you can’t stop there. When you consider child bearing age (ages 15 to 44), you’re now down to 3% of the population responsible for 30% of all abortions in the country. The numbers are shocking, but you can’t stop there. Women generally do not get pregnant by themselves. In the abortion debate, men play a vital role. According to the sociological research performed by MenAndAbortion.Com “about 600,000 men Church Family Worship(male partners in ill-timed and unwanted pregnancies) accompanied a client to her abortion appointment [in 2005] (about half of all abortion-seeking women generally have a man sitting by in the clinic or doctor’s waiting room).” 5 Furthermore, research shows that the abortion industry’s population control facilities (i.e., abortion clinics) target Black America, so it is no surprise that Black Americans are the abortion industry’s #1 customer. 6 The economic front for Black America is both dire and desperate. “According to the data, taken from the the Washington-based Economic Policy Institute, median net worth of white households fell from $134,280 in 2004 to $97,860 in 2009, while over the same period median black household net worth went from $13,450 to $2,170.” 7 Given the overwhelming data surrounding Black abortions and the Black family in America, it’s easy to see a Black Pastor preaching to a severely post-abortive congregation and dissociating him or herself from the threat that this information poses to their church family. With no help on the horizon, a church about to split over this issue and his or her job on the line, many Black leaders have chosen the money over the mission or the treasure over the truth.

This is The Choice. What would you choose?

Betrayal Trauma: Survival Is At Stake

“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.” — Martin Luther King Jr., I Have a Dream, 1963.

Samuel YetteSamuel Frederick Yette (1929 — 2011)

Samuel Frederick Yette (pronounced “Yet”), Newsweek’s First Black D.C. Correspondent, was a journalist, author and educator. Mr. Yette died at 81 on Friday, January 21st, 2011 at the Morningside House Assisted Living facility in Laurel, Maryland. He had Alzheimer’s disease. 8 May he rest in peace. Samuel was an influential and sometimes incendiary voice on Civil Rights. Yette’s book “The Choice: The Issue of Black Survival in America” 9 gained him the full attention of major media. In a 1972 press conference, Yette said: “I don’t mean to be pejorative or vindictive when I say this, but had I been a nigger instead of Black, a spy instead of a reporter, a tool instead of a man, I could have stayed at Newsweek indefinitely.” 10 In 1996 Yette told the Tennessee Tribune, “there were those well-placed in our government who were determined to have a final solution for the race issue in this country — not unlike Hitler’s ‘Final Solution’ for Jews 50 years earlier in Germany. I wrote this and documented it. It caused the Nixon White House to say to Newsweek in effect, ‘Don’t come back until you are rid of him.'” 11 Mr. Yette’s very public stand is well documented in the Maafa21 DVD (http://maafa21.com) which boldly carries on his message, that there are elite efforts to exterminate the Black race in America. If Betrayal Trauma Theory can indeed predict “that dissociating information from awareness is mediated by the threat that the information poses to the individual’s system of attachment” then it should come as no surprise that Black leadership is struggling as he or she faces “The Choice” of life or death.

As I wonder how many of us would be willing to risk losing our financial security and/or our family relationships over the abortion debate, John 8:7 comes to my mind. What comes to yours?

Brothers, we really need to talk.

Reference(s):
01. Freyd, J.J. Memory repression, dissociative states, and other cognitive control processes involved in adult sequelae of childhood trauma. Invited paper given at the Second Annual Conference on A Psychodynamics – Cognitive Science Interface, Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute, University of California, San Francisco, August 21-22, 1991.
02. Freyd, J.J. (2009). What is a Betrayal Trauma? What is Betrayal Trauma Theory? Retrieved Friday, August 26th, 2011 from: http://bit.ly/q0Uuop.
03. British artist duo Gilbert (L) and George, 1980.
04. Facts on Induced Abortion in the United States, Guttmacher Institute (http://bit.ly/gUufbn).
05. “Abortion Clinics and Waiting Room Men: Sociological Insights”, MenAndAbortion.Com (http://bit.ly/qtCD5X).
06. “Racial Targeting and Population Control”, Life Dynamics, Inc. (http://bit.ly/n8PuyL).
07. “Why do blacks still let Obama off the hook?” Star Parker (http://bit.ly/qzUSKH).
08. Saynsumthn’s Blog, “Samuel Yette’s message continues in the powerful documentary on black genocide: Maafa21 DVD” (http://bit.ly/pPQgID).
09. “The Choice: The Issue of Black Survival in America” Amazon.Com (http://amzn.to/qSP5pY).
10. Saynsumthn’s Blog op. cit.
11. Ibid.

Betrayal Trauma (3 of 7)

In Abortion, Special Edition on September 19, 2011 at 12:00 am

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Betrayal Trauma

“I propose that the core issue is betrayal — a betrayal of trust that produces conflict between external reality and a necessary system of social dependence.” — Jennifer J. Freyd


Betrayed Black RoseBetrayal Trauma Theory believes that there is a “social utility” in remaining unaware of abuse when the victim is dependent on the perpetrator. In such cases Dr. Jennifer J. Freyd, author of the terms “betrayal trauma” and “betrayal trauma theory,” argues that under some circumstances detecting betrayals may be counter-productive to survival. 1 I am suggesting that in the case where the victim and the perpetrator are the same (self-betrayal), Dr. Freyd’s argument is especially true.

While traditionally trauma research purports that fear is at the core of all responses to trauma, Freyd believes that traumatic events differ in degree of “fear and betrayal,” depending on the context and characteristics of the event. According to Freyd, “research suggests that the distinction between fear and betrayal may be important to post-traumatic outcomes.” 2 I believe the distinction between fear and betrayal is important to post-traumatic responses as illustrated below:

Betrayed Black Rose

Figure 1: Two Dimensional Model For Traumatic Events

This is part three (3) of a seven (7) part series examining why Black Leadership rejects the Pro-Life movement, is helping to perpetrate the genocide of their own people and what can be done to reverse this horrific reality.

Betrayal Trauma: Socially Inflicted

“Now is the time to lift our national policy from the quicksand of racial injustice to the solid rock of human dignity.” — Martin Luther King, Jr., Letter from Birmingham Jail


RacISm WrongThe Number Two Reason Black leadership rejects the Pro-Life movement is that he or she is: Prejudice. In other words, some Black leaders hate or are intolerant of White leaders. While the imbalance between Black and White Americans, as a result of nearly 240 years of “chattel slavery,” 3 is an ugly reality of American society, it is also a fact that in light of the incontestable evil of abortion, many Black leaders have become victims of their own hate. Abortion is oxymoronic, a “cruel kindness” if you will. Abortion is the lie that promises to improve the “quality of life” at the “expense of life.” Abortion kills over 1,000 Black babies every day in America. Over 15,000,000 Black Babies have been killed since 1973. That’s more than the entire populations of Los Angeles, Detroit, Atlanta, Boston, Oakland, Dallas, D.C., Chicago, Miami and Baltimore combined. Black children are aborted at a rate three (3) to five (5) times higher than White children. In New York City, the home of Planned Parenthood, sixty percent (60%) of all Black Pregnancies are aborted. 4 In Washington, D.C., where Blacks make up 52.7 percent of the population, there are 265 abortions for every 100 live births. 5 Abortion never reduces poverty, health care disparities or unintended pregnancy rates. Abortion reduces us6 When Black leaders embrace Black leaders that embrace abortion as a necessary “social policy” or “social utility” to guarantee life, Black leaders are ultimately embracing Black genocide, a racist and eugenic strategy designed to end Black life. We were the oppressed. Now we are our own oppressor. Furthermore, if we don’t stop aborting our children, we will once again become the oppressed. Oh “that we [would] be saved from our enemies, and from the hand of all who hate us,” even from ourselves (Luke 1:71). 7

Betrayal Trauma: Fear Is At The Core

“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.” — Martin Luther King Jr., I Have a Dream, 1963.


Truth Exit If Betrayal Trauma Theory is true, and our response to the world around us is shaped by fear and betrayal (Figure 1), then it is easy to understand why Black leaders embrace Black leaders. However, when Black leaders embrace Black leaders because Black leaders are Black, versus the content of their character, we are engaging in a sadistic type of reverse racism that betrays us at the deepest levels. It’s easy to say: “Trust God!” However, when the cold winds of fear and betrayal blow into the reality of our lives, it is easier to be angry at God than to trust Him. Yet, in light of our response to the fact that Black America is aborting their children at three times (3x) the rate of White America, I’m asking the same question the Lord asked Jonah in chapter four (4). 8

Brothers, we really need to talk.

Reference(s):
1. Freyd, J.J. Memory repression, dissociative states, and other cognitive control processes involved in adult sequelae of childhood trauma. Invited paper given at the Second Annual Conference on A Psychodynamics – Cognitive Science Interface, Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute, University of California, San Francisco, August 21-22, 1991.
2. Freyd, J.J. (2009). What is a Betrayal Trauma? What is Betrayal Trauma Theory? Retrieved Friday, August 26th, 2011 from: http://bit.ly/q0Uuop.
3. “Myth Busting: “Africans Sold Their Own Into Slavery and Are Just As Guilty as Whites …” (http://bit.ly/rhZDmb)
4. Atlanta, July 1, 2011, The National Black Prolife Coalition at released: “EPIDEMIC” (http://bit.ly/o5Rtn7)
5. “DC Mayor Vincent Gray Wants No Black Child Left Unaborted”, LifeNews.Com (http://bit.ly/nqrMhL)
6. National Black Prolife Coalition, op. cit.
7. The ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®) copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles (http://bit.ly/rrKAWH)
8. “Then said the LORD, Doest thou well to be angry?” Jonah 4:4 (KJV)

Betrayal Trauma (2 of 7)

In Abortion, Special Edition on September 12, 2011 at 12:03 am

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Betrayal Trauma

“I propose that the core issue is betrayal — a betrayal of trust that produces conflict between external reality and a necessary system of social dependence.” — Jennifer J. Freyd


Betrayed Black RoseBetrayal Trauma is a theory that tries to predict the degree to which a negative event, perpetrated by a trusted and needed other, will influence the way events (past, present and future) are both processed and remembered and occurs when the people or institutions we depend on for survival violate us in some way. 1 Dr. Jennifer J. Freyd, a Professor of Psychology at the University of Oregon, is the author of the terms “Betrayal Trauma” and “Betrayal Trauma Theory.” Below Freyd argues that under some circumstances detecting betrayals may be counter-productive to survival.

The psychic pain involved in detecting betrayal, as in detecting a cheater, is an evolved, adaptive, motivator for changing social alliances. In general it is not to our survival or reproductive advantage to go back for further interaction to those who have betrayed us. However, if the person who has betrayed us is someone we need to continue interacting with despite the betrayal, then it is not to our advantage to respond to the betrayal in the normal way. Instead we essentially need to ignore the betrayal2  

This is part two (2) of a seven (7) part series examining why Black Leadership rejects the Pro-Life movement, is helping to perpetrate the genocide of their own people and what can be done to reverse this horrific reality.

Betrayal Trauma: Self Inflicted

Self-Betrayal \self-bi-‘trā(-ə)l\ is “The intentional or inadvertent revelation of the truth about one’s actions or thoughts.” — The Oxford Pocket Dictionary 3


Betrayed Black Man In TroubleThe Number One Reason Black leadership rejects the Pro-Life movement is that he or she is: Post-Abortive. In other words, there is an abortion in his or her life somewhere. It may be their father, mother, sister or brother. It may be their wife, son or daughter. It may be a member of their own congregation whom they have counseled to get an abortion. A worst case scenario might look like a leader who is married and the abortion in his or her life is the result of an immoral relationship. Furthermore, because the impact of abortion on the life of the leader is mitigated by the role (or the lack thereof) he or she played in the decision, how each leader responds to their own environment is unique. Here is where “Betrayal Trauma Theory,” is helpful. If the pain involved in detecting betrayal, motivates us to “change social alliances,” it is not surprising to see leaders, many of whom are suffering from the effects of a past abortion, leave clearly biblical constructs and conclaves to embrace abortion industry policies, practices and politics. As we dig deeper into the trauma of betrayal and learn that the person who betrayed the leader is someone he or she needs to continue interacting with “despite the betrayal” (i.e., him or herself) then and only if we are willing to be transparently honest with ourselves, is it easy to understand why leaders would rather live with themselves by ignoring the betrayal, than risk the ruin that can result from privately and publicly confessing and confronting the betrayal. The truth is we are no different than our leaders. All of us have fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23).

Betrayal Trauma: A Matter Of The Heart

“And Peter remembered the word of Jesus, which said unto him, Before the cock crow, thou shalt deny me thrice. And he went out, and wept bitterly.” — Matthew 26:75 (KJV)


Betrayed Black ManWhile any recommendation, made in good faith, should recognize the different circumstances facing different leaders at any given point in time, there is a common characteristic shared by Post-Abortive leaders. Like many of us, Post-Abortive leaders tend to see the world in a way that justifies their decisions and as a result their view of reality becomes distorted. This is one reason why facts and figures, logic and reason will always fail to reach the heart of the matter. This should not be hard to understand. Post-Abortive leaders are people who are hurt and hurt people, hurt people. Because abortion is clearly a matter of the heart, we must understand that only the love of Christ can heal a heart. If the Apostle Peter is an example of a leader who acted contrary to his core values, then even though our leaders are smiling on the outside, many of them are swallowing a toxic sense of “self-betrayal” (i.e., the intentional or inadvertent revelation of the truth about one’s actions or thoughts.4) on the inside, with nobody to blame but themselves.

Brothers, just as Jesus forgave Peter and met him in Galilee (Mark 16:7), we can be confident that He will forgive us, despite the betrayal and meet us right where we are.

Brothers, we really need to talk.

Reference(s):
1. Freyd, J.J. Memory repression, dissociative states, and other cognitive control processes involved in adult sequelae of childhood trauma. Invited paper given at the Second Annual Conference on A Psychodynamics – Cognitive Science Interface, Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute, University of California, San Francisco, August 21-22, 1991.
2. Freyd, J.J. (2009). What is a Betrayal Trauma? What is Betrayal Trauma Theory? Retrieved Friday, August 26th, 2011 from: http://bit.ly/q0Uuop.
3. “Self-Betrayal.” The Oxford Pocket Dictionary of Current English. 2009. Retrieved Friday, August 26, 2011 from Encyclopedia.Com: http://bit.ly/rhbdqt
4. Ibid.

Betrayal Trauma (1 of 7)

In Abortion, Special Edition on September 5, 2011 at 12:00 am

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Betrayal Trauma

“I propose that the core issue is betrayal — a betrayal of trust that produces conflict between external reality and a necessary system of social dependence.” — Jennifer J. Freyd


Betrayed Black RoseBetrayal Trauma is a theory that tries to predict the degree to which a negative event, perpetrated by a trusted and needed other, will influence the way events (past, present and future) are both processed and remembered. Dr. Jennifer Freyd, Professor of Psychology at the University of Oregon, introduced the terms “Betrayal Trauma” and “Betrayal Trauma Theory” in 1991 at a presentation at Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute. According to Freyd, Betrayal Trauma occurs when the people or institutions we depend on for survival violate us in some way. 1

This is part one (1) of a seven (7) part series examining why Black Leadership rejects the Pro-Life movement, is helping to perpetrate the genocide of their own people and what can be done to reverse this horrific reality.

Betrayal Trauma By Abortion

“To me, the thing that is worse than death is betrayal. You see, I could conceive death, but I could not conceive betrayal.” — Malcolm X (May 19, 1925 — February 21, 1965)


Betrayed Black ChildAccording to the 2008 Guttmacher Policy Review, Volume 11, Number 3: “This much is true: In the United States, the abortion rate for Black women is almost five (5) times that for white women.” 2 The disproportionate impact of abortion in Black America is devastating. Today a Black baby is three (3) times more likely to be murdered in the womb of his or her own mother than a White baby. According to researcher Dennis Howard, founder and president of The Movement for a Better America, the abortion toll reached over 54.5 million at the end of August this year. “Let’s be honest,” he says. “Even slavery — as awful as it was — pales in comparison to the evil of abortion. At its peak, slavery affected the lives of perhaps three (3) million Blacks. We have already ended the lives of six (6) times that many Blacks in [less than] four decades of abortion; and eighteen (18) times that many unborn children of all races and colors.” 3 According to the Tuskegee Institute it took the Ku Klux Klan eighty-six (86) years, from 1882 to 1968, to lynch 3,446 negroes. At the current rate Black Americans are aborting their children, in less than four (4) days more Black Americans will be killed by abortion than have been killed by the Ku Klux Klan in its entire history. 4 According to Dr. La Verne Tolbert, a former board member of Planned Parenthood in New York City, over twenty (20) million Black babies have been aborted since 1973. 5 I won’t even mention the numbers surrounding Black abortions in New York City or in our country’s capital. 6 Apparently, Margaret Sanger’s racist and eugenic “Birth Control” philosophy is not working. Or is it? 7

Betrayal Trauma By Our Own

“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” — Martin Luther King, Jr. (January 15, 1929 — April 4, 1968)


Betrayed Black WomanIf Betrayal Trauma does indeed occur when the people or institutions, trusted or needed others we depend on for survival violate us in some way, then Betrayal Trauma is not a theory or a proposed explanation whose status is still conjectural and subject to further examination in Black America. It is a horrific and terrifying reality with unimaginable consequences for all of us. In light of the fact that 1.2 million innocent lives are lost each year to abortion, with thirty percent (30%) or 360,000 of those lives Black American lives, 8 I am constantly asked: Why is Black leadership so silent on abortion and so slow to support the Pro-Life movement? Well, for the next six (6) weeks I will expose and explain the four (4) reasons why Black leadership struggles with the Pro-Life movement, what must be done to strengthen Black leadership’s stand against abortion and why Personhood, the only Pro-Life strategy that does not embrace exceptions, is a winning strategy in communities of color.

Brothers, we really need to talk.

Reference(s):
1. Freyd, J.J. Memory repression, dissociative states, and other cognitive control processes involved in adult sequelae of childhood trauma. Invited paper given at the Second Annual Conference on A Psychodynamics – Cognitive Science Interface, Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute, University of California, San Francisco, August 21-22, 1991.
2. Abortion and Women of Color: The Bigger Picture (AGI Policy Review: Summer 2008 | Volume 11 | Number 3) (http://bit.ly/dRj84L).
3. “Does this number
shock you? Wait ’til you see the bill!”, Dennis M. Howard (http://bit.ly/hFnSa8)
4. According to a study by the Tuskegee Institute, a total of 4,743 lynchings occurred between 1882 and 1968 . Of these, 73% (3446) of the victims were blacks and 1,297 (27%) were whites. (http://bit.ly/eJ5Zvd)
5. Over 20 Million Aborted: Why Planned Parenthood Targets The Inner-City, La Verne Tolbert, Ph.D. (http://bit.ly/p4uKxF)
6. 2011 February 28: National Day Of Mourning Column, Walter B. Hoye II (http://bit.ly/ooeOQZ) and “DC Mayor Vincent Gray Wants No Black Child Left Unaborted”, LifeNews.Com (http://bit.ly/nqrMhL)
7. 1964 Planned Parenthood Pamphlet: “Abortion Kills A Life Of A Baby … ” (http://bit.ly/pvmDtY)
8. “Facts on Induced Abortion in the United States.” (AGI: January 2011, http://bit.ly/gow3NJ)